If I had known better: My first boyfriend.

 “…so I have a crush on him.” I confessed to my best friend over the phone after school on a weekday. 

“Really? That long boy?” she asked, not bothering to mask her surprise. 

“Yes. He is one of the coolest guys in our class and his height is definitely a plus for me.” I replied plainly. 

That was the genesis of my crush on this particular dude, as usual my best friend hyped him up and caused the flames I ignited for him to burn hotter. I was in the second year of senior secondary school, and for some reason I had noticed this boy and developed some childish feelings for him.

For the whole time I had a crush on him, he practically ignored me or treated me like every other girl. 

If I could go back in time, I’ll tell myself to completely obliterate the thoughts of this dude from my mind and focus on my studies😑

After 2 weeks or maybe 3, my crush for him finally faded away.  Out of nowhere, like a bell rang in his head, this particular dude suddenly took interest in me and began to make advances towards me, the way the high school senior would. He even went as far as coming all the way to my house just to woo me. I recall going on a tricycle ride with him where he tried to get all touchy with me, but I wasn’t having it😂. Well, at that particular time, I had no feelings for him anymore so his moves we’re not well received by me, as I was more irritated than appeased by them.

If I had known better, I would recognise that, that was a red flag and would have told him off completely….. well I didn’t.

He began to ask me to be his girlfriend. I was about 14 at the time and I had never had a boyfriend, unlike my friends. I spoke to my experienced friends asking for advice… and of course they pressured me into saying yes, just to have an experience of a relationship. 😒

If I had known better I wouldn’t have bothered telling my friends, so as to avoid succumbing to peer pressure. 😥

Well I did succumb to peer pressure and agreed to be this dude’s girlfriend. The relationship was boring and pointless, since I was irritated most of the time. It apparently didn’t last long for the lack of emotions.

 The cane that broke the camel’s back was when I got into a fight with one of my boyfriend’s close friends, and got hit by him. That was the worst highschool moment for me; getting hit by a guy😢. That was the first and last time such a thing happened, but it is still one of my most dreadful encounters in my life😤. Although my ‘boyfriend’ wasn’t there when it happened, he did learn about it afterwards. All he could say to me was “Why did you get in a fight with a guy na?…” (At least that’s what I remembered him saying… My annoyance at him might have clouded my hearing and memory😂… Maybe he said “sorry” or something..🤷🏽‍♀️) He however continued his friendship with the girl hitter.😠 I’m not sure if he confronted that friend or not, but  I saw that the friendship continued and I was very angry about it.😒

If I had known better, I would have avoided quarelling with a guy who was bigger than me in every way. I also wouldn’t have expected my ‘boyfriend’ to be a superhero and fight for me out of ‘love’… I guess I was watching too many American high school movies. 😅

Well, the relationship didn’t last. I broke up with him and freed myself of the misery.

 If I had known better I would not have wasted my time with a high school boyfriend. Instead I would have spent time working on improving my terrible grades.😂😉