If I Had Known Better: My Flimsiest Relationship. 

“Say yes! Come on, you can’t say ‘no’ on Valentine’s Day.” Those were the silly words that got me into that flimsy relationship. Lol.

I was in my final year of University and I was visiting another city to do some research for my dissertation. My friend had been gracious enough to host me for the duration of time I was in that city. This was in her family home. Since she was a Pastor’s child, I had to go with her to her church and even got involved. It was nice and cute… till I met this bloke who was a close relative to my friend. 

He was good looking, dark, tall and handsome, but I just wasn’t interested in him. I can’t really recall my line of thoughts at the time, but I knew I wasn’t interested. If I had known better, I would have stood true to myself and avoided all interaction with him.

Well, I was a 19-year-old, and did not know better. Instead, I enjoyed the attention and wooing. He requested we should hang out on a group date for valentine’s day, and I agreed to it. If I had known better, I would have read in between the lines of this invitation. Who asks a girl on a date on the renowned lover’s day without intentions? Well, I didn’t know better and was just trying to enjoy my time in that city…

That was how I ended up at a restaurant with this bloke, my friend, and another person (who I can’t recall). That day, February the 14th, the dude decided to publicly ask me to be his girlfriend… Bear in mind that I had only met him the previous day, or at least a week prior…🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t recall clearly, but it hadn’t been a long time. If I had known better, that should have been enough reason to turn him down.  

I was quite ready to say no to him, and had I known better, I would have. But then, he pulled the Valentine’s Day card. My friend and the other person whom I do not recall, joined him in urging me to agree to the relationship… So, I broke and said yes…🤦🏾‍♀️Whoosh, what a foolish thing to do haha… As in my previous stories, I again succumbed to pressure. Never learning from experience 😅…

Well, I more or less avoided “my boyfriend” whilst I was in the city. To my credit, I was more focused on my task, which was, interviewing a Japanese diplomat for my research… Obviously, I’ve loved this language for a long time 😂.

Anyways, back to this guy. I guess we hung out and had some enjoyable time (always in a group btw) I guess I still had some wisdom.

I know you might be thinking… What was the problem? Well, it was a pointless relationship and there was no substance to it. I spent most of the relationship chatting about things I shouldn’t have been chatting about. I cringe in embarrassment when I recall our conversations. Things, I shall never repeat to any soul 🤐…

Well, after I was finished with my business in that city, I returned to my city and we began a long-distance relationship. We continued chatting about things I prefer to forget. After two weeks, I guess I realised on my inside that it was a fruitless relationship and perhaps I began to focus on the right things. I called him up and ended things, refusing to be convinced by his words to continue in it. I felt relieved afterwards and committed my time to better things, like finishing my degree with good grades.

Had I known better, I would have never allowed myself to be pressured into something So silly. Instead, I would have been focused on my research and growing in my Faith.

Thankfully, God was still good to me, because I got an A in my dissertation, haha. I did learn my lesson and this was the last time I got pressured into being in a relationship.

• Ps. I promise, I haven’t just been going around dating random boys. These are my lived experiences for over 25 years of my existence. I still had my principles and did not sway out of them. I hope you can laugh and learn from them.

Love,

Faith

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